Transgender Day of Visibility 2022

I was on vacation last week, so I didn’t have a chance to post this update. Now that my family staycation is over, I wanted to share a few thoughts on this topic. In addition, an excerpt of our internal communication is appended below. It includes a recent update to our company Pride logo, which now has the Progress Pride flag colors to acknowledge the BIPOC and trans / non-binary members of our community.

You may be asking yourself why this acknowledgement of the trans community is so important.  Beyond the obvious “Treat People Right”, in the U.S. at the moment there are significant legislative efforts underway at the state level to undermine or eliminate protections for the trans community.  You can read an overview of the current lawsuit in Texas on the ACLU website, here and here.  In short, this new legislation intends to criminalize parents, medical professionals, and other caregivers for providing affirming treatment of gender dysphoria – what is now considered the standard of care for transgender youth.  Similar legislation is being proposed in many states, but the Texas law is the most serious one, because the intent is to remove transgender children from their families if gender-affirming care is provided. 

In the meantime, President Biden has also issued an Executive Order on Preventing and Combating Discrimination on the Basis of Gender Identity or Sexual Orientation, signaling his intent to address this at the federal level.

At a personal level, what is particularly striking to me is how young transgender kids just know that they are different, and often at a much earlier age than people who realize they are not heterosexual.  This is not about choice!  Here are multiple generations of transgender folks who you might be interested to follow on social media:

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A Perspective on Social Justice

I thought this was so powerful and wanted to share; emphasis mine. 

Kai Cheng Thom writes:

“I think the major difference between a social justice and a white/colonial lens on trauma is the assumption that trauma recovery is the reclamation of safety—that safety is a resource that is simply ‘out there’ for the taking and all we need to do is work hard enough at therapy.  I was once at a training seminar in Toronto led by a famous & beloved somatic psychologist. She spoke brilliantly. I asked her how healing from trauma was possible for people for whom violence & danger are part of everyday life. She said it was not.  Colonial psychology & psychiatry reveal their allegiance to the status quo in their approach to trauma: That resourcing must come from within oneself rather than from the collective. That trauma recovery is feeling safe in society, when in fact society is the source of trauma.  

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Representation matters

Over the past few years, I’ve shared and celebrated some Pride-focused ads here. It may seem obvious to some, but when I came out 35 years ago, I never saw relationships like mine the way we see them now in advertising, television, film, and books. It continues to be a thrill for me to see same-sex couples in media! I remember watching television with my family one night, and there was a commercial for life insurance that included two men. When I verbalized my excitement, both my kids looked at me with disinterest – it just didn’t even occur to them that it was a big deal.

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Chelation Chronicles – 1H 2021

This blog post is focused on my chronic health issues. The series was initially focused on learning to detox heavy metals using the Andy Cutler Chelation (ACC) protocol, which I have been using to detox from mercury, lead, and silver poisoning. You can read about how I found ACC and chose to pursue it in this post. This is the fifth such Chelation Chronicles post, where I am regularly documenting the ups and downs I’m experiencing. You can read the first, second, third, and fourth posts, too, if you like. There are also a couple of off-cycle posts, one about celebrating 100 rounds of chelation, and another about comparing three (annual) hair tests.


Unfortunately, it’s been a very difficult year since last wrote about my health journey; as the world has contended with the pandemic, my health has deteriorated even further.

In early 2020 I was feeling so hopeful about the progress I had made, but a little discouraged about the weight gain from chelation. In February 2020 I started a ketogenic diet, in April I celebrated Round 100, and in May I completed my third hair test and analysis of my progress based on that. At the end of 2020, I had completed 144 round-equivalents, 51of those rounds included DMSA.

But by June 2020 (which I was writing my previous Chelation Chronicles post), my health had taken a major nose dive. I’ve spent the last year trying to make sense of what happened and how to stabilize things again. This year I have only completed nine rounds of chelation (six with DMSA). I’m not even sure I should call this post ‘chelation chronicles’; I’ve gone from being hopeful about chelation and the improvements I’ve experienced to extremely discouraged, which is perhaps why it’s been so difficult to sit down and write this post.

Part of the reason I have finally committed to site down and write is to prepare for another wave of medical appointments and lab work which I hope will help me make sense of what’s happened in the past year. Here’s a summary of what I’ve been through, and some thoughts on what might come next.

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Fairygodboss interview

Who better to lead User Experience than an anthropologist? Meet Natalie Hanson. She’s a Principal at ZS, where she provides human-centered strategy, research and design for clients. In addition to a master’s and Ph.D. in Anthropology, she also has a master’s in Whole Systems Design. She’s the sponsor of Pride@ZS, the company’s LGBTQ+ Employee Resource Group. As a result of her involvement with the group, Natalie has found a growing inspiration in her life, saying “I’m now more vocal and political and engaged than I’ve been in many years.” 

She recently talked to Fairygodboss about her many interests, how rewarding she finds reverse-mentoring, and how she feels supported by her company in all her endeavors.

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